Some time ago, I was working with a teenage girl in therapy to address her anxiety and fearfulness, which was impacting her ability to participate in activities outside of her home. Primarily, her anxiety presented as a constant worry that Something bad is going to happen. We had been steadily making progress in therapy as she was learning that the world around her wasn’t always so dangerous, and then our city experienced a traumatic, hate-filled, violent event. The session after that incident in our town, she sat across from me on the couch and asked me a question that struck me and still does to this day, “How can we try to convince ourselves that the world is safe when really it isn’t?” It was a very raw, emotional question, and I was honest with her that day when I replied, “I don’t know.”
As a parent of a toddler, this article titled “Toddlers, Meltdowns and Brain Development: why parents need to ditch traditional discipline” on www.RaisedGood.com really struck me. Here’s an excerpt:
“…remember a tantrum is not a reflection on you. Let’s repeat that; your child’s tantrum is not a reflection on you or your parenting. What is a reflection on you is your response to the tantrum. Can you find the courage to disable generational imprinting and cultural expectations and be the calm in your child’s storm? You cannot control another person, but you can choose your response.” Learn More...
As a Therapist, I often try to talk with clients about the importance of quality sleep and work with them to find ways to improve their sleep habits. After all, sleep is responsible for so much of our physical, emotional and mental health! Oftentimes people come to see me because of difficulty managing a negative emotion such as anger, fear, and/or sadness. It seems many people don’t realize how much credit we should give to Sleep for our very own emotion regulation abilities! CNN published a SUPER helpful article (“Wake up, people: You’re fooling yourself about sleep, study says”) earlier this week about sleep myths, which I found really helpful. Please take a look: https://www.cnn.com/2019/04/16/health/sleep-myths-facts-study/index.html Learn More...
Here’s our very own Rebecca Street, LMFT featured in an article about her joining the Creative Family Counseling Team. Check it out!
Homework can be a challenging time for many families. Oftentimes, it can be one of the biggest routine struggles of the week, regularly resulting in yelling and tears. Out of ideas? Some small tweaks in your homework game may help reduce some of the friction surrounding this time of day for you and your family. Here’s some ideas:
Give your kids a screen-free break after getting home from school.
Allow them to have a snack and chill out for about 30 minutes, but no screen time. My experience is that having this 30 minute break time be tech-free allows kids to reset and refocus themselves, and it eliminates potential battles of transitioning from screen time to homework time. Let them have a snack, and then if it’s nice outside, encourage playtime with your family pet, swinging on a swing, or kicking around a soccer ball. There’s no better reset than time spent outside being physically active and having some fun.
Designate a time of day for homework.
This sets school performance and completion of homework as a priority in your home. Make sure it’s plenty of time before bedtime so that bedtime doesn’t get hectic or even pushed back later.
Designate a Homework Zone.
By designating a space that is set aside for homework, you can eliminate a lot of distractions and barriers to the process. Consider the space to be a table (sitting at a table helps with focus) away from distracting televisions/electronics. Stock the Homework Zone with supplies your child may need for homework activities. You may also want to consider a location in your home where you’re easily able to multi-task while your kiddo is doing their homework. This allows you to be present when needed but also allows you to get other things done when you’re not needed as much. It can also let you step away so you’re not hovering, which could impact the homework process negatively.
Routine makes a difference. I understand that the family schedule probably changes day-by-day, as it does for most families who have children involved in after-school activities, but try to stay on schedule as much as possible.
Know what your kiddo is up to academically.
Have an open line of communication with his/her teachers. Many teachers are open to emailing parents who are interested in keeping up with what’s happening in the classroom. During the school-year, your child’s teacher likely spends more time with them than you do, so engage with them about your child’s progress, areas of growth, and their social/emotional development. You can also participate in parent portals if your child’s school offers this.
Use homework time as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship with your child.
Be a teammate. Stay encouraging and helpful. No child struggles academically on purpose. When you present yourself as an ally to your child, it allows them to feel more equipped to learn the skills associated with learning and studying. If they seem to be struggling with a certain skill, be curious with them about it and see if they have any ideas of possible solutions to the challenge they’re facing and offer possible solutions when appropriate.
Help your child learn study skills.
Allow them the opportunity to become problem solvers, learn to plan, set goals, and prioritize activities. After all these are skills that first need to be learned and then need to be practiced. Don’t swoop in and do it for them, or your children never have the chance learn to be independent thinkers or master the skills necessary to thrive academically in the future.
Know when to take a break.
If your emotions are high during homework time, consider how big your child’s emotions must be! Sometimes a ten minute break is helpful. Walk away from the Homework Zone. Do something physical. Have a drink of water. Go outside for a few moments. Everyone needs a break from challenges at times, and children sometimes don’t recognize when this kind of break is needed.
Recognize when to get additional help.
Still having struggles at Homework Time? You may want to consider scheduling some one-on-one time for your child with their teacher, finding a study group, or seeking out professional tutoring services. Increase your support network for you and your child by expanding it to include others who specialize in this work. Their expertise may just be what your family needs.
Homework time doesn’t have to be a daily crisis in your home. Implementing some small changes may help ease some of the tension in your home during this time of day. Good luck, Team! Learn More...
Lola is Famous!
A couple years ago a photo of Lola enjoying her “Puppicino” (whip cream in a cup) from Heine Brothers’ Coffee was shown in a Heine Brothers’ commercial. This past March, she was featured in an article of Today’s Woman, who highlighted the amazing work that Therapy Animals provide. At Creative Family Counseling, Lola offers Animal-Assisted Therapy. She is such a special member of the CFC Team, and clients understand the gift of a therapy animal when they experience Lola’s gentle and sweet presence. Learn More...
Parenting is a balancing act, and boy is there an awful lot of balancing to do! We want EVERYTHING for our kids and if we stretch our schedules (and ourselves!) thinner and thinner, we can fit it all in, right?! After all, if they’re involved with healthy hobbies and activities, that keeps them out of trouble with some not-so-healthy alternatives, right?
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I get it. Allowing our kids screen time isn’t just about making the kids happy. Sometimes it makes the adults happy… Sometimes parents just need to take a shower. Prepare the next meal. Take a five minute break from the most difficult job in the world – parenting. Sometimes it’s nice to go potty without little eyes watching us or little hands either getting into something poisonous or grabbing the toilet paper and running with it, redecorating your house with the soft, white paper. Learn More...
Creative Family Counseling, owned by Clinical Director Lacey Ryan, LMFT, is excited to announce the launch of a new website design and the opening of a new practice location in Louisville, Kentucky. The new website design features overviews of the counseling services offered at Creative Family Counseling, information on the therapeutic specialties available, history of the team of therapists, therapy resources, testimonials, and more. Along with the new website design, Creative Family Counseling has opened the doors of a new practice location at 8134 New LaGrange Road, Suite 227, in Louisville, Kentucky and the practice is currently accepting new patients. Learn More...
Is this your first time visiting us at Creative Family Counseling?
Welcome! We find it a privilege to walk alongside clients as they work through challenges. Thank you for choosing to spend that time with us!
If you’re a planner like me, this little article may be helpful to help you prepare for your first visit at CFC.
When you schedule your first appointment with your Therapist, you will receive a password to complete your Intake Questionnaire and sign your Consents and Agreements prior to coming. Please complete this paperwork electronically prior to your visit so your Therapist can review it with you during your scheduled appointment time. Learn More...